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Emma Dorge's avatar

Woa- Thanks for writing this one, Alec. So many random thoughts came out of this in my first read, I will be reading it again. It is so good to hear this, I think we'd all be kidding if we didn't feel this way at some point - and thank you for being vulnerable to write this one.

I love this Merton quote:

"They wear our their minds and bodies in a hopeless endeavor to have somebody else's experiences or write somebody else's poems."

Figuring out what we want to do, and then (1) being brave enough to say it to ourselves, then (2) being brave enough to say it to the world, and then (3) to act on it is a very hard endeavor.

Also.. random, but I just heard of this writing exercise this guy does-- it's a Morning Journal session where its fully stream of consciousness. There are two rules (1) NO negative self talk, and (2) one page. I'm on day 5 of doing it and establishing rule number has been a game changer.

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Alec McNayr's avatar

I love it- thanks so much. What’s been the result of morning pages for you?

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Maurice Ferkranus's avatar

Alec, I appreciate you sharing this. Life is complex, but there's always goodness to be found, more often when we are with others.

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Alec McNayr's avatar

Thanks my friend-

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Katerina's avatar

Thank you for writing this!! Really helpful!

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David Chang's avatar

You’ve described in words a feeling that’s lingered in me for a long time. Thanks for sharing! One of my favorite posts of yours.

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Alec McNayr's avatar

Thanks my friend, that's super meaningful. Keep it up.

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Josh Southern's avatar

Good post, man. We all struggle with this. I believe that dreaming is worth it, even if things don't work out quite like you had hoped. The journey of dreaming, and then pursuing the dream, is what brings us to life, and makes life worth living.

Keep writing, keep getting on stage, keep putting yourself out there. We all appreciate it! I know I do.

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Alec McNayr's avatar

Thank you so much. Really means a lot.

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Kevin Jackson's avatar

"Perfect is the enemy of great" is how I approach my work and life and what I try to impart to my students. The longer you fret over something not being perfect, the less you're actually doing.

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Alec McNayr's avatar

This is the way

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Becky Leonard's avatar

Love this one! Well done, fine sir.

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Alec McNayr's avatar

I won't tell Katie you called me *fine*, but also, thanks

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Joe Molzer's avatar

Another quote you might let in.

"The best defense is a good offense"

- Mel, the cook on Alice

(Showing my age)

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Alec McNayr's avatar

We're the same age, and I don't think I've ever heard of that show! I had to Google it! Thanks my friend--

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Joe Molzer's avatar

I know we're close in age, but as my youngest moves to college this week. I feel approximately 109. So I've got that going for me.

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Alec McNayr's avatar

I'm glad then. It was for you!

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